“It’s your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.” Rumi
The past 17 years, I managed our household by taking care of my kids and husband. Due to this choice, I found myself lost because I completely left myself behind. My life was not unhappy but I could not tell you what exactly brought me joy. If you are in the same place and leaving yourself last, I urge to begin a new thought process. It could be just 30 minutes a week but in those 30 minutes do what you love.
Are You Walking Someone Else’s Road
I realized by reflecting on these past years, I was not walking my own journey. Instead, I was trying to walk someone else’s road for them. For example, I tried to walk my husband’s road and his fight for sobriety. I also tried to control my high school child’s path by telling him exactly what to do. I guess I thought I was the smartest person because I was forcing my ideas. And we all know my way is the right way…right?! Just kidding.
Well, sort of because I truly thought my ideas were the end all be all for my family. It was eye-opening when I recognized that I made their journey my priority.
This came to light recently because my children are no longer dependent on me in the same way. Also, my husband does not need me to hold his hand as he works on his recovery.
Now I sit alone and ask myself what is missing. Well, it is my road. I must face this unknown territory and learn who I am. So I hang onto hope, leave room for change, and lean on my friends and family who will walk alongside me.
Who Walks With You
What a beautiful line when Rumi says “others may walk it with you”. This helps me believe that I am not alone. My road may be bumpy and have lots of curves or it may be surrounded by beautiful scenery. No matter the trail, I have my loved ones to hold me when times are tough and celebrate with me when life is great.
This quote ends with the reminder that “no one can walk it for you”. This ending reminds us that we have a voice and no other voice matters more. We also can not sit back and expect others to tell us how to work out a problem. I remember being a first-time mom and wanting all the answers handed to me. At the end of the day, I learned that I had figure it out on my own. Do you know what happened next? I experienced the biggest reward. I gained knowledge and strength. The most important part was learning from my mistakes.
Every Road Leads to a Destination
We all hope for our dreams to come true from the beginning of our childhood. Today is the day to make them a priority. I hope you find your path no matter what your circumstances are at home or work.
While my family is the center of my world, I am learning the balance of life. Sometimes the scales lean more to one side but I know what brings them back to center. May you find the same balance and hold your head high as you walk your road.
About the Guest Contributor
Kelley started her blog because of a change in her home life. Her husband suffers from PTSD caused by his military days. Unfortunately, this led to his increase in his alcohol consumption. Kelley tried looking online for resources and others who were experiencing the same issues. This blog originated by sharing her truth on alcoholism in her life. In the end, Kelley learned more about herself, discovered her voice, and self-love.
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